Sex Always Has To Have Meaning

I always hate the idea of meaningless sex. Every time I had sex, the women were put into two categories. Either she was a girl I was dating or a good friend. Never have I just had sex with a random stranger to just have sex.

Without sounding egotistical, I can probably go out and find a random girl to do….but I choose not to. That is meaningless sex. What’s the point of that? To just get off and go home after. I find the whole idea foreign.

Now to partially contradict myself. Sex with a friend is entirely different. You can have sex with a friend if both of you are clear about the outcome. You have to be honest about what the situation is so nobody gets hurt. That’s the last thing I would ever want to do to someone.

I don’t view sex as an animalistic ritual. I simply see it as two people having fun. It’s like when your hanging out with the person not having sex with her. You joke around, you laugh, you have fun. That’s the kind if emotion to put into the bedroom.

Yes, obviously it feels good, but try to make it a more relaxed situation. I don’t want sex to simply be “I’m horney and you’re on your back”. It takes the whole fun out of it by making into that.

Two people can just have sex and afterwards not date. That doesn’t mean that it was meaningless. It means simply you are two friends that had sex. It isn’t something that you have to go bragging about. I don’t brag about every time I hang out with someone.

Joe Reyes

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Where Did They All Go?

I have a UFO book that shows the presence of extraterrestrials throughout history. It shows paintings from the Victorian era where UFOs are in the background. One famous painting was of the Virgin Mary and in the sky is a man in a ship. It’s drawn like a spaceship of the modern era.

There are TV shows about how aliens were around in ancient civilizations. Stone carvings of them were put into their structures in all parts of the world. Look at the pyramids. Some belie that men cannot make those on their own. There are studies going on to uncover how they were made. Modern scientist of today cannot figure it out so how did they back then?

My biggest question about aliens and extraterrestrials in general is where did they all go? For centuries, people have been drawing beings from the sky. In Peru, there are giant drawings in the ground made so you can see it from the sky. There are TONS of strange monuments dedicated to other beings.

So for the bulk of human existence this has been going on. Where did they all go? The only extraterrestrial evidence and occurrence is a home video of lights in the sky. Back then we have drawings and other accounts put into stone showing these beings interacting with humans.

I just don’t understand why aren’t they coming back? Did the aliens just come to Earth for centuries visiting and then left after we became too modern? Are they watching us now? Why become a part of cultures if you’re just going to leave one day and just show up as a few moving lights.

Joe Reyes

Why “I’m Sorry” Is A Meaningless Phrase

I always hated when people say “I’m Sorry” because they think saying it is enough. Some people believe that spilling your gut out saying how sorry you are actually changes anything. It doesn’t at all.

Let’s look at what the definition of “I’m Sorry” is:

1. Feeling or expressing sympathy, pity, or regret: I’m sorry I’m late.

2. Worthless or inferior; paltry: a sorry excuse.

3. Causing sorrow, grief, or misfortune; grievous: a sorry development.

Yeah that’s nice, but it still doesn’t change anything. Does it make up for anything? Not at all. Just saying the words is almost like an empty promise.

Here is how I apologize for something. It’s really complicated so you might want to reread this part: You do something nice for the person you wronged. It’s as simple as that. It doesn’t even need to be something extravagant. Just being a friend and talking is sometimes enough. Buy a meal, make the person feel good, joke around…..something! You can’t just say the words and expect everything to be okay in the end.

It’s almost like when you tell someone “I love you”. What sounds better?

Me saying “I love you”

Or

Me going above and beyond to make you feel great about being with me. Doing some kind of gesture that shows how much I enjoy being around you. And then saying “I love you”

I’m pretty sure people want the second option over the first option.

Now you don’t have to go over the top about an apology. Here’s some examples of how I apologized to some people:

  1. Some girl wanted to hang out and the day of something came up that I had to go to. There was no way around it. So I called her and told her everything, I said how “sorry” I was about letting her down. THEN I told her when I’m free next and made sure I was available that day and when we hung out made it a great day for her.
  2. I got into a fight with a co-worker and it got pretty heated. It was the Tuesday before Thanksgiving and I had Wednesday off. So I came back Friday after the two day break. We saw each other, he came up and said he was sorry for what he said and didn’t mean to offend me. I shook his hand and I said I was equally at fault.  After that I asked how his Thanksgiving went and he asked how mine went. That day we talked about basketball and a multitude of other things that rest of the day. Then every day at work we talked and joked around…..likes friends would.

These were just 2 examples of times where I said I was “sorry”, but you can clearly see it didn’t just end with the words. You know what the worst kind of apology is? Saying “I’m sorry” and then doing nothing after. Silence isn’t the answer. It never is, but for some reason this is the road most people take.

Someone said it the best way to me. He said “Joe, everyone can’t be you” and he was right. Now I’m not perfect. I never went around saying I am, but I’m smart enough to know that there is a right way and a wrong way to do things.

Empty words are the same as empty promises. They do nothing, but make the person saying it feel better about themselves. They feel like “what else can I do”, but clearly there are a lot of other things you can do to prove you’re sorry.

Just take a moment and think about it like this. If someone screwed up and you were affected in one way or another, would just the words “I’m sorry” be enough for you?

Joe Reyes

Zoosk…..A Big Lie

I saw that a bunch of my Facebook friends liked it so I decided to see for myself. Zoosk is an online dating site where you post some information about yourself and it finds matches for you. Immediately I received a dozen messages from random women, but I wasn’t able to communicate with them because I didn’t pay the fee.

My suspicions were later confirmed that this site is fake, and just wants your money, from what I found out a few days after. The site said it found a perfect match for me based on the questions I answered when I signed up.

It sent me the profile of a woman about 20 miles away from here. Our information was really close, but again I couldn’t talk to her because I didn’t pay the fee. A few hours later I received about “perfect match”.

The picture was exactly the same as the previous woman, but all the information was different. Her name was different, her height changed a few inches, her religion changed, preferences on drinking and smoking changed. This was a slim girl and her body type amazingly changed from “slim” to “curvy”, but had the same exact picture.

People fall for sites like this all the time. Why is that? I don’t see how some could. I could easily make a fake profile. People do it all the time. They made TV shows about it. People get conned all the time. So the last thing I want to do is go along with something like this, let alone pay for it to happen.

Joe Reyes

Being An Idiot Is A Choice

                I always hate when people do incredibly dumb things, while fully experiencing and knowing how bad things can get.  Let me explain what I mean. I knew this girl who lived down the road from me. One night she was partying with her friends and decided to go driving. The driver had a few drinks and ended up crashing. The girl was thrown out the window and died on impact.

                Her best fired started a campaign at school selling shirts with her dead friend’s name on it. She got donations for the family and seemed like she got the message of why drinking and driving is bad. Not long after her mother let her sleep over a friend’s house.

                The mother was suspicious that the daughter checked in a few times suspiciously. The mom went out to where her daughter said she was staying for the night. She wasn’t there. The mother waited until her daughter got back with her friends.

                Someone else was driving and pulled into the driveway. The mother saw that there was an open bottle of Vodka in the car. Her best friend was killed a few weeks prior and she was in the car when it happened. Her idea was to get in the car of a person who was drinking? It takes a certain kind of idiot to repeat such actions.

                This is why I don’t believe people can change. If you’re a moron, then you’re going to be a moron for the rest of your life. If you’re a bad person, then you’re not going to wake up a good guy. Even people given all the opportunities in the world screw up.

                Look at the world of sports. Some multimillionaire players still think going to a strip club at 3am is a smart idea. Look at all the players with gun charges and players who just can’t keep their names out of the news.

                It’s not a matter of growing up. Even grownups screw up all the time. Look at all the crime that goes on in the world. Look at all the criminals who have been in and out of jail multiple times. It’s not always a matter of upbringing or environment. Some people grow up in poor neighborhoods and find a way to be a decent person.

                Nobody makes you choose who you want to be. You do it all on your own. People want to blame outside things for the development of the person. Sometimes rock stars are considered corrupt because their lyrics make people do things. No, that’s not how it works.

                It’s irresponsible to blame a program or musician because someone does something bad. I play violent games, I listen to some music with curses, I watch movies where horrific things happen to characters…..do you see me out there replicating those things.

                Back to the point I was making earlier; some people are just idiots. Some people just don’t get it. This girl was in the car when her friend was hurled out the window and smashed her head on the pavement….and she almost replicates the actions that got her friend killed. This girl is an idiot.

Joe Reyes

Some Didn’t Come Back

I was watching a video montage about soldiers returning home from the war. It was at first really touching. The returning vets surprised their family in a variety of ways. My favorite was when a woman was throwing out the first pitch at a baseball game and the catcher ended up being her husband.

There were dozens of different scenarios like that, which were all very moving, but then I started to feel sad watching it. I started to think about all the soldiers that didn’t get to return back home and surprise their family members.

A lot of soldiers died overseas and aren’t coming home. So yes, it was nice to see the happy families see their returning husbands and fathers, but all I thought about were the ones that didn’t return home.

It’s a tough thing going to war and leaving your family for a little while. It’s even worse to leave them permanently.

Joe Reyes