Sex Always Has To Have Meaning

I always hate the idea of meaningless sex. Every time I had sex, the women were put into two categories. Either she was a girl I was dating or a good friend. Never have I just had sex with a random stranger to just have sex.

Without sounding egotistical, I can probably go out and find a random girl to do….but I choose not to. That is meaningless sex. What’s the point of that? To just get off and go home after. I find the whole idea foreign.

Now to partially contradict myself. Sex with a friend is entirely different. You can have sex with a friend if both of you are clear about the outcome. You have to be honest about what the situation is so nobody gets hurt. That’s the last thing I would ever want to do to someone.

I don’t view sex as an animalistic ritual. I simply see it as two people having fun. It’s like when your hanging out with the person not having sex with her. You joke around, you laugh, you have fun. That’s the kind if emotion to put into the bedroom.

Yes, obviously it feels good, but try to make it a more relaxed situation. I don’t want sex to simply be “I’m horney and you’re on your back”. It takes the whole fun out of it by making into that.

Two people can just have sex and afterwards not date. That doesn’t mean that it was meaningless. It means simply you are two friends that had sex. It isn’t something that you have to go bragging about. I don’t brag about every time I hang out with someone.

Joe Reyes


Being An Idiot Is A Choice

                I always hate when people do incredibly dumb things, while fully experiencing and knowing how bad things can get.  Let me explain what I mean. I knew this girl who lived down the road from me. One night she was partying with her friends and decided to go driving. The driver had a few drinks and ended up crashing. The girl was thrown out the window and died on impact.

                Her best fired started a campaign at school selling shirts with her dead friend’s name on it. She got donations for the family and seemed like she got the message of why drinking and driving is bad. Not long after her mother let her sleep over a friend’s house.

                The mother was suspicious that the daughter checked in a few times suspiciously. The mom went out to where her daughter said she was staying for the night. She wasn’t there. The mother waited until her daughter got back with her friends.

                Someone else was driving and pulled into the driveway. The mother saw that there was an open bottle of Vodka in the car. Her best friend was killed a few weeks prior and she was in the car when it happened. Her idea was to get in the car of a person who was drinking? It takes a certain kind of idiot to repeat such actions.

                This is why I don’t believe people can change. If you’re a moron, then you’re going to be a moron for the rest of your life. If you’re a bad person, then you’re not going to wake up a good guy. Even people given all the opportunities in the world screw up.

                Look at the world of sports. Some multimillionaire players still think going to a strip club at 3am is a smart idea. Look at all the players with gun charges and players who just can’t keep their names out of the news.

                It’s not a matter of growing up. Even grownups screw up all the time. Look at all the crime that goes on in the world. Look at all the criminals who have been in and out of jail multiple times. It’s not always a matter of upbringing or environment. Some people grow up in poor neighborhoods and find a way to be a decent person.

                Nobody makes you choose who you want to be. You do it all on your own. People want to blame outside things for the development of the person. Sometimes rock stars are considered corrupt because their lyrics make people do things. No, that’s not how it works.

                It’s irresponsible to blame a program or musician because someone does something bad. I play violent games, I listen to some music with curses, I watch movies where horrific things happen to characters… you see me out there replicating those things.

                Back to the point I was making earlier; some people are just idiots. Some people just don’t get it. This girl was in the car when her friend was hurled out the window and smashed her head on the pavement….and she almost replicates the actions that got her friend killed. This girl is an idiot.

Joe Reyes

Some Didn’t Come Back

I was watching a video montage about soldiers returning home from the war. It was at first really touching. The returning vets surprised their family in a variety of ways. My favorite was when a woman was throwing out the first pitch at a baseball game and the catcher ended up being her husband.

There were dozens of different scenarios like that, which were all very moving, but then I started to feel sad watching it. I started to think about all the soldiers that didn’t get to return back home and surprise their family members.

A lot of soldiers died overseas and aren’t coming home. So yes, it was nice to see the happy families see their returning husbands and fathers, but all I thought about were the ones that didn’t return home.

It’s a tough thing going to war and leaving your family for a little while. It’s even worse to leave them permanently.

Joe Reyes

A Gay Scout Master?

A remember reading a recent story where a Boy Scout Master came out of the closet and admitted he was a homosexual. A few of the parents took their kids out of that Boy Scout troop and sent them to another one. What is the harm in having a gay Scout Master? Because he’s gay does that mean he’s going to try to have sex with my child?

Just because someone is a homosexual, that doesn’t mean they are a sexual deviant. Look at all the straight child molesters out there. The second someone admits they are gay they are automatically perceived as wanting to have sex with every one of the same sex.

I’m a straight male; does that mean I want to have sex with every woman in the world? I worked as a camp counselor for a summer and no parent protested it. I took care of boys and girls. No parent went to my boss and said “I think Joe is going to have sex with my little girl,” not one parent said that.

Are we really that close minded? Do we really think if someone is a homosexual that they are any different than anyone else? So they are attracted to someone of the same sex, doesn’t make them a bad person at all.

A few years ago, homosexuals were deemed weird. People looked down on them and most stayed in the closet so they won’t be ridiculed by society. Today someone comes out of the closet and they are viewed as a hero.

I think a story like this really shows the pigheaded close-minded mentality of some people. Homosexuals are no different from any heterosexual. Who you are attracted to doesn’t label you as a person.

Joe Reyes


Created A Page

Recently I created a page on Facebook. (

This is to promote myself and my writings. I want to get myself out there more and gain some kind of credibility and fan base. My main goal in life is to write for a living and I want to share my writings and opinions with others out there with others and see what they think.

I do hope you go on and subscribe to my page. Every “like” counts and I hope you share your opinions to help me come up with new articles/writings and just share opinions.

Thanks again,

Joe Reyes

Smoke & Mirrors

It’s almost hard to explain, but have you ever learned something’s about someone that completely distorted your view of them. There was this girl I worked with a few years ago She always seemed like the happiest person around.

She was pretty and always looked good. Every time I saw her she was always smiling and had a happy demeanor, even at work. I guess the longer I worked there the longer we talked and then I found out more into her personal life.

I found out that behind that smile and that bubbly personality was a very messed up girl. She has family problems, was always getting high and seemed depressed all the time. I guess after working with her awhile she felt more comfortable with me and started to open up more.

It was sad to hear everything she had to say. Every day there was an new problem going on in her life. I was really taking back by the whole thing because this was a girl that I thought had it all together. Like the title says, it was all “smoke & mirrors”. First impressions on her were a lie. Well, maybe not a lie, it just took a little while to see the real her. It was weird seeing her for what she really was, a sad little girl.

A lot of people do this. They hide who they really are because people will pity and judge them. It’s a sad truth, but it’s true. Even if you not going to judge them, you look at them differently. You always ask how they are and try to cheer them up.

The quote “never judge a book by its cover” goes perfectly with this story and it’s something to always remember. You never know someone until they open up and let the real them out. I’m glad she told me all that, because it really opened my eyes. Like I said before I never would’ve guessed a girl as pretty and nice as that to have such problems. But again, it was all “smoke and mirrors”.

Joe Reyes